Hannah’s Guide to When Shit Hits the Fan

Here is a story. 

We always had cats growing up. (For those of you who are now mad at me for being a cat person, we also had a dog later on.) My dream was to have a Cat named Cat when I grew up, just like in Breakfast at Tiffany’s. And so when I finally moved into an apartment without allergic roommates at 22, I was resolved to get one.

When I finally brought Caterine Hepburn home, it was probably one of the best moments of my life.

Part of it was the obvious cuteness of the new creature in my life, but a big part of it was also that this was the first decision I had really made for me, without anyone else’s input or encouraging. It was a self-constructed rite of passage; for years I had told myself that when I was an adult, I would get my own cat. It was a hallmark of independence for me.

Looking back, it was probably not a good idea to base the barometer of my ability to be a successful adult on the ability to keep a pet alive.

Especially because a few months later, she got sick with some genetic kitten disease. Completely panicked, I spent $2000 I didn’t have trying to figure out how to save her.

And she still died.

Look, I know what you’re thinking: it’s a fucking cat. And it’s not like I hadn’t experienced the death of a pet, or even of a family member, before. But something about this was different – not worse, but different. It completely shattered any of the confidence I had in myself. Because all of a sudden, when faced with the decision or when to put her down, I turned into a crying five year old begging for someone else to handle it. But there was no one. Because Cat was my responsibility. And it was my decision.

And I then had to live with that decision.

I binge watched The Haunting of Hill House in two days. I refused to sleep in the bed she cuddled with me in for a week. I cried daily. A month later, instead of having a birthday party, I decided to throw a Cat Funeral, where I got too drunk and cried during a slideshow primarily photos of her and my cat selfie-obsessed roommate.

Is it completely ridiculous? Yes, probably.

Will you find yourself in a similar position at one point, having to deal with something far before you expected to – whether it’s an unwanted pregnancy, an injury, unemployment, or a breakup? Will you find yourself feeling 5 years old again, crying and wishing someone else could handle things for you, only to realize there’s no one?

Definitely.

Will it destroy your image of your own capability; will it destroy the fragile confidence of being able to handle adulthood that you have built over the last couple years? 10000%.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t build up that fragile confidence; in all honesty, it’s the only thing that will carry you through everyday adulting. But I also want to caution you that even as you build it, you must know it will not be enough to carry you through when shit hits the fan. Which is, unfortunately, often what we base our idea of our own capability on.

Everyone falls apart when shit hits the fan. It’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re not an adult, or all your hard work at independence was simply a mirage.

What we should be building our confidence in ourselves on is our ability to handle the little stuff. AKA, just keeping yourself healthy and alive.

I think everyone feels this way right when they exit college, or move out on their own – this sort of, “oh, shit, I actually have to take care of myself.” I remember one of my roommates perfectly describing this: one night, she went out drinking. She came back and accidentally broke a glass in the bathroom. She was kind of drunk, and really tired, and all she wanted was to go to bed. Only we lived in a 2-bedroom, 1 bath with 5 girls. She couldn’t simply leave the floor littered with broken glass. And she could not call her mom or anyone else to come help her. We were all asleep, and it was her problem, after all. So she swept it up. 

Similarly, when I first moved into an apartment after college, food was no longer readily available. Oftentimes I would be too lazy or clueless or busy to cook, and then I would be starving with no food in sight. Maybe I’d had a long day, and all I wanted was some food before bed. But there was no one to make it for me. So I simply had to go to bed hungry or make dinner myself.

It’s tempting to use simple hacks. Maybe you’ll cover the glass with a thick rug until the morning. Maybe you’ll order takeout or eat 5 granola bars for dinner. Hey, whatever works – God knows I’ve been there, and am still there half the time. But I think dealing with that smaller stuff is the best way to at least know when the shit hits the fan that you are a capable adult outside of whatever crisis is happening. And one day looking back on things like break-ups and putting your cat down will hurt, but they will feel so much smaller than they did at the time.

Adulthood is far too big to ever conceive as a whole. Just focus on making yourself dinner, and the rest will come in time.

Hannah’s Guide to Easy Halloween Makeup

ABC Family (or Freeform or whatever) does its 13 Nights of Halloween. Well, you can do 13 nights of Halloween themed makeup!

13 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

It’s not *quite* Halloween, so let’s go for something fall themed.

Dark and vampy, but still wearable!

12 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

You’ve still got almost 2 weeks!

I don’t know anyone who still drinks Pumpkin Spice Lattes, but this look is delicious:

11 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

We’re still celebrating fall here. Give me all the orange and gold glitter!!

10 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

This is for Christmas, but who cares? It’s GOLD!!

9 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

Shit’s getting real now. Let’s get ~spooky~!

Note: green hair optional.

8 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

Let’s get even spookier with that black lipstick!!

7 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN!

It’s a WEEK until Halloween!! Halloween parties are certain to start, so let’s start with the makeup-based costumes! First we’ll start with the cute:

Cats are a classic! Also a super easy costume – get/make cat ears, wear black, put on the makeup, and voila. BONUS: Make your bestie go as a witch.

6 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

Let’s get beautiful!

EVERYBODY wants to be a mermaid. Don’t waste that on Halloween night! Do it early, as it’s little effort. Just wear a glitter skirt and a crop top and boom, you’re Ariel.

5 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

Here’s another kind of easy one:

Throw on some wings and a flowy dress, and you’re set!

4 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

My roommate did this last year and it was terrifying. It’s the perfect bridge between pretty and scary.

….Okay, so it’s mostly scary. Get your more innocent dress and put your hair in pigtails or bows and you’ll have all you need.

3 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

We did cute-scary, now let’s do sexy-scary.

Vampires are not what they used to be, but they’re still fun. Plus all you gotta do is wear black and trail some red lipstick down your chin if you don’t want to commit.

2 DAYS BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

A fun and easy costume is a Final Girl.

You can honestly pick any horror film, and basically you just wear a tank top and short shorts, smudge some dirt on yourself, and create fake wounds. BONUS: make some fake blood stains and smear it on your shirt.

You can also make this someone like Lara Croft or Buffy the Vampire Slayer depending on how you accessorize.

1 DAY BEFORE HALLOWEEN:

Time to get real scary.

I hate clowns. I can’t even watch this video. But it’s very ~on trend~. And okay, the costume’s a little more difficult, but it’s almost Halloween!! Just get some white stockings, a white poofy dress, and a clown collar like this.

HALLOWEEN

This is it people!!!

Now, you should do whatever you want on Halloween. But because I’m a nerd, my favorite thing is to do full cosplays of my favorite characters! Here’s some tutorials below:

I have chosen less mainstream options in the past, like Aelita from Code Lyoko back in middle school (I wasn’t very popular), but this one can be a lot of fun and basically however much work you want it to be. I personally like to go all out.

And that’s it!! Happy Halloween, folks!!

Me when I realize Halloween’s in just a few weeks:

Hannah’s Guide to Non-Scary Halloween Movies

It’s about to be October, which means it’s Halloween season!!

I LOVE Halloween. But I’m also a scaredy cat. Which is why I have compiled a list of the BEST non-scary Halloween movies!!!

10. Mean Girls

Okay, I know this isn’t technically a Halloween film. But it’s got Halloween in it, and it’s one of the best movies of all time.

9. Twitches

Disney Channel had some of the best Halloween movies. Seriously.

8. The Haunted Mansion

Another kids option….but honestly might be a better inspired-by-the-ride movie than Pirates of the Caribbean. Plus it’s got Eddie Murphy!

7. The Nightmare Before Christmas

Tim Burton at his best. Plus you can watch it even after Halloween’s over!

6. Beetlejuice

Another fun spooky and wacky option! Scary doesn’t have to mean not fun!

5. Shaun of the Dead

Finally, a movie that’s not for kids.

This hilarious zombie movie spoof can be a bit gory, but I wouldn’t call it scary.

4. Ghostbusters

Ghosts AND humor AND Bill Murray??! What more could you want?

3. Halloweentown (and its sequels)

I know they’re for kids!!! But these are the best Halloween movies of all time. Of ALL time!!

You’re lying if you say you don’t want to go to Halloweentown.

2. Hocus Pocus.

This one is a CLASSIC! It’s fun and spooky without being scary.

1.The Rocky Horror Picture Show

No one does Halloween better. Go to a midnight showing for the full experience!

Hannah’s Guide to (Not Going) Back to School

One of the weirdest parts of graduating college is September coming around and nothing happening.

You don’t go back to school. Maybe the weather is getting colder, but otherwise it doesn’t feel much different from August. If you work in retail, your job may get less busy.

Yet you’re still bombarded with back to school ads and sales. It seems like people are setting goals and changing up their lives, and you’re just kind of….there…..

You no longer relate to Buzzfeed posts about going back to school. And you realize that, for the first time since you were a toddler, you’re not going to go to school this year.

Maybe you loved school. Maybe you hated it. But school is a great way to set benchmarks and milestones and make it feel like time is actually moving forward. You have designated breaks and times to be stressed. You know what to expect.

Out in the real world, it’s all just sort of….time. If you don’t work a M-F, 9-5, you’ll probably forget what day of the week it is. If you’re not working a lot with dates, you might forget what month it is. And if you’re living somewhere where there aren’t really seasons – like Los Angeles – you will literally feel like one season blends into the next.

Sure, there are still the holidays. But if you don’t live close to home, you might not even return to your family for the holidays.

Being an adult is VERY weird. The life you’ve known is wrenched away from you, and all of a sudden you’re expected to keep yourself healthy and alive. Which means making money, and spending that money well. You used to be surrounded by peers and family – now it’s just you alone in the big bad world.

Even if you hated school, it kind of sucks.

Here’s my advice: find a way to set your own milestones. Whether you check in in September, or after the New Year, or your birthday, find at least one time yearly (preferably bimonthly) to check in where you are and if you’re happy, or if you want to make a change. Because that’s one of the best things about adulting we often forget – you’re not really tied to anything. Not what your parents say. Not law (okay, yes you’re tied by the law, but now you’re a legal adult). Not teachers or a dorm or university or high school. It can be easy to get a routine and start seeing your job as school – you just have to keep moving through it and moving up indefinitely. But work has no real end except retirement, and that’s a LONG way away. So if you don’t like your job, or the direction your life is headed, it’s perfectly okay to change paths. You are literally not responsible for anyone but yourself – it’s a lot to be responsible for, but it also gives you the freedom to choose. You’ve got to look out for yourself, and not feel so responsible for people – especially in your 20s, when you haven’t really made any kind of commitments.

So take advantage of the back to school sales (Labor Day can be a great time to get cheaper furniture!) and don’t let yourself feel nostalgic about being in school – remember that when you were there, you were wishing you were here. This is what you wished for! And sure, it’s not what you expected – but nothing is. At least you have the power to change it.

You got this.

Hannah’s Guide to Getting Bangs

So you’ve finally decided you’re going to do it. You’re going to take the plunge and get bangs.

All jokes aside, some people look amazing with bangs. Of course, everyone cites Zooey Deschanel, but she’s not the only one.

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Plenty of other celebrities look amazing with bangs! Sure, they have stylists, but it is possible for the average person to get awesome bangs. You just have to make sure they’re the right style for you.

BARDOT BANGS

This is my personal favorite. The hair isn’t actually that short, or only a few pieces are, so it’s a great way to experiment with bangs.

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You don’t have to always style them as bangs, but it’ll help you get used to them.

SIDE SWEPT BANGS

Sidebangs are out, but sideswept bangs are all the rage. Just look at Emma Stone.

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These are great if you have a more square-shaped head/jaw and don’t want to look too angular. The bangs are also longer and not as thick, so they’re not as much of a commitment!

CHOPPY BANGS

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These are a great more edgy, messy option if you don’t feel like you’re the “bangs type”.

BLUNT BANGS

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Look, I’m gonna be honest. There aren’t a lot of people who look good with these, especially if they’re thick/shorter. You’re really got to have a heart or diamond shaped face, and avoid making them ~too~ straight.

CURLY BANGS

These obviously only work if you’ve got curly hair.

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I’m obsessed with these. I wish I had curly hair so I could get these.

They also have the bonus of being longer, so if you straighten them they don’t really seem like bangs anymore.

MIDDLE-PART BANGS

These are basically Bardot Bangs, but shorter and a bit more blunt. But they don’t seem that way because they’re separated in the middle!

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I love these bangs, but my sister says they look like Dwight from the Office. They’re great if you have a more rectangular face, and I feel they highlight the cheekbones.

Those are basically it besides short bangs – which I hate so I’m going to ignore – but I just want to show that getting bangs may seem like a huge step, and yes it’s annoying to grow them out, but they can look amazing! Especially if you have a big forehead like moi. There are also different ways of styling them, especially if they’re long!

Plus, they look so cute when you put your hair in a ponytail.

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Hannah’s Guide to Dying Your Hair

My (broke) attitude in life is often why pay someone for someone when you can do it yourself?

(I’m also a control freak, so I don’t like putting stuff like my hair in others’ hands.)

This has not always worked out for me – but it’s also worked wonderfully on other occasions. One of the best examples of both of these outcomes is dying my own hair.

My hair dye journey started when I was 15. I’d always had this fantasy of being blonde, which I was kind of in denial of/was worried people would judge me for. So I spent the summer going increasingly lighter, trying to achieve a dark-blonde/light-brown, but this is what I ended up with:

I don’t even know where to begin with this photo.

It was brassy, unmanageable, and unnatural. But if you’re interested, here’s how I got here:

  1. permanent light brown/dark blonde hair dye (2 rounds): I recommend going to Sally Beauty Supply or a similar store, or ordering dye online, rather than using box dye. Make sure you get gloves and developer (30 is good for strong lightening) and follow the instructions for the dye to developer ratio. The brushes are good for the most even (and cleanest) application, but it also is possible to use a bottle and just coat all of your hair in it, until it feels like your entire head is a pile of goop. NOTE: lay newspaper and/or plastic EVERYWHERE. Hair dye is almost impossible to get out of floors, carpets, and tubs if it gets stuck there. If some gets on something, clean it immediately.
  2. professional highlights
  3. honey and lemon spray that I left in overnight multiple times (not sure how much this worked, but methods are described here)

Before I went back to school, I decided to go with something more “natural” – red. I got this professionally done.

That lasted about a month before I tried to go back to brown….except it turned out black. I got it done professionally, but turns out if your hair is really damaged and porous, the hair dye absorbs too quickly and can turn out darker than it’s supposed to.

I kept that until I graduated high school. And then I went on another journey to go blonde – this time, entirely by myself.

First, since my hair was dyed black, I did multiple treatments to try to strip the dye. Crushed vitamin C tablets and dish soap are actually a wonderful combination for pulling out dye. Harsher shampoos like dandruff and clarifying shampoos also work well.

Next, you’re going to need to bleach your hair. I wouldn’t recommend bleaching your entire head all by yourself. It’s very tricky and can totally fry your hair. If you’re not trying to go white-blonde, I recommend using a bleach wash (method described here), which is basically just mixing bleach normally (with 30vol developer) and then adding in equal parts shampoo, and coating your hair with it. It’s a much gentler form of bleaching, and can lighten even dyed hair a few shades.

At this point I ended up with an uneven light brown (full disclosure: because some of my hair was virgin hair and some of it was dyed, it was not very even). Your hair will probably need a good amount of TLC at this point, so I would give it a break for at least a week and deep condition it a lot.

Your hair might be light enough for you at this point – in that case, go back to Sally hair dye and get the shade you want. If not, I suggest highlights, especially balayage. This is a great way to transition into blonde hair. For this, you’ll want to use full bleach. L’oreal quick blue is a good one – or really anything at Sally’s. Mix it with the ratio of developer as laid out in the instructions. And then there’s a few methods for highlighting:

One is with foils – this is the traditional method that you see on TV. You’ll need a brush with a pointy end to separate very fine sections of hair – you’ll want to grab a tiny, thin section, and weave in and out so you’re only taking about half of it. Then you’ll put a bit of the bleach on some foil, put the foil underneath that half section, and paint over it all the way down your hair until all the hair is saturated, then fold it out. You’ll do this all over your head, taking more sections from the front and top layers. More detailed instructions here.

I prefer the second method – I had trouble getting the foil close enough to the root, and often ended up with hot roots that went outside the highlights. It’s also hard to do on yourself. My preferred method is hair painting/balayage – for this you’ll want to separate your hair into sections, just like if you were to curl or straighten it. You’ll need a mirror in front of and behind you so you can see what you’re doing all around. You’ll basically “paint” on the bleach with a very small brush in lines all the way down – if you’re doing balayage ombre, you’ll start a lot of the lines lower, and the bottom of your hair will end up almost completely saturated in bleach. Then you’ll lay plastic wrap over that layer and drop another layer down and do the same. I like this method because you have complete control of the placement of the highlights, especially around your fair. It also feels a little bit easier, and since you’re not going too close to the roots you don’t have to worry about hot roots. This is really hard to describe just in words/pictures, so here’s a video tutorial.

You will almost definitely need to tone your hair after highlights/the bleach bath. Violet counteracts yellow, while blue counteracts orange. I prefer wella’s color charm toner in t14 or t18 – a guide to them is found here. It’s basically the same as applying hair dye (as that’s what it is), but you might leave it on for a little shorter. It’s more to counteract tones than to actually color your hair. If one round is not effective, you can do another. You might want to touch up every couple months as it washes out.

I’d also recommend purple shampoo if you’re dying your hair blonde. This helps eliminate the need to constantly tone your hair, because you’re toning it in the shower. I have also used food coloring-conditioner mixes (which did not work), as well as food-coloring vinegar mixes (which worked too well) – I’d recommend sticking to a strong purple shampoo like Shimmer Lights or Joico’s.

I eventually went dark again – this is honestly pretty easy. You just use the initial hair dye method as described in the beginning of this article. The associates at Sally’s are super helpful, and there are plenty of hair swatches for you to check out. The most important things to remember are:

  1. at a beauty supply store, you need to buy both dye and developer – 10vol developer works for darkening, 20 or 30 (or in extreme cases, 40) are good for lightening
  2. permanent hair dye can fade a bit, but lasts forever/until it grows out; demi-permanent lasts a few months; semi-permanent lasts a few washes/a few weeks (even if you’ve only used demi or semi permanent, you may have a hard time lightening your hair – try a strand test first)
  3. colored dye (such as pink) will not show up on dark hair – you’ll need to bleach the section you want to color first
  4. dye will not lighten hair that’s already been dyed darker; you’ll need bleach to do that unless you can strip all the dye
  5. hair dye will only lighten your hair a few shades – you’ll need bleach to go lighter, or multiple rounds
  6. if your hair is damaged/porous, the colors will turn out a few shades darker than the swatches
  7. take care of your hair – do not color it too much in a row – and if you feel things are getting out of hand or you want to make a drastic change, always go to a professional

And that’s all, folks!

For reference, he’s some pics of me blonde:

I’m back to brown now, and I still miss it all the time. However, it’s a lot of upkeep. Blondes certainly do not have more fun when it comes to keeping their hair blonde.

Hannah’s Guide to Kylie’s Original Lip Kits

Kylie’s released a MILLION lip kits by now.

It seems like decades since she released her first few – Candy K, Dolce K, and True Brown K – which sold out within minutes.

Next came Posie K, Koko K, and Mary Jo K; then 22 and Kourt K; then her glosses.

But now that she’s got an entire brand, how do her original lip kits hold up?

8. True Brown K

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Look, I get that Kylie wanted to start with brownish nudes. But this is legitimately brown. It’s so brown that I’ve used it as eyeliner multiple times. I feel like she should’ve stuck with classics for her original 3, and this one was not exactly a classic.

7. Kourt K

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This was the last of the colors released before her glosses – so I don’t mind that it was a little more out there. However, I’ve really loved some of her other purples since – like Moon or Head Over Heels – and this one is just not the same level. Maybe it’s just that I don’t love darker colors, but this one feels too vampy for me.

6. 22

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Okay, I actually love this one, but really I love them all so this one has to be a bit lower than the ones I love more. It’s a great orange-red, but it doesn’t fit on every skin tone (like the 2 above), so that earns it a lower spot.

5. Dolce K

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Ahh, it pains me to put this one so low on the list, because I use it ALL THE TIME. However, it’s not quite as versatile as the others, and it doesn’t work on every skin tone. It’s pretty brown.

4. Mary Jo K

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I also am obsessed with this one. It’s the perfect candy apple red – the only reason it’s this low is because a lot of other brands have great candy apple reds.

3. Posie K

This is definitely a cult favorite, and I can see why. It’s the perfect rosie pink, and it works on SO MANY different skin tones. It feels unique while still being probably the most similar to Kylie’s go-to shade before the lip kits, Whirl by Mac.

2. Koko K

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This one’s probably my personal favorite. I love how subtle it is while still being a strong pink. It’s still brownish and true to her first few colors, but I find it to be the most wearable.

1.Candy K

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This one’s my favorite out of her original 3. It’s more versatile than Dolce, but it’s still a great brownish nude. I also feel like it looks really different on different skin tones (more pink than it appears above), and fits more skin tones than Koko K. It also feels true to Whirl while still being different. It fits with Kylie’s brand and her first 3 colors really well!

And that’s it! Kylie’s been insanely busy since then, branching out away from lips into face and eye makeup – but my favorites are still her ever-expanding list of lip kits. She’s built an amazingly successful brand, and I can’t wait to see what she does next!

Hannah’s Guide to Break-Ups

I’m not going to pretend to be an expert on relationships here.

Obviously if you’ve been in a super long term relationship, you’re probably not going to want to break up with someone suddenly, after a “we need 2 talk” text. It’s going to be an ongoing conversation where you hopefully attempt to work on your relationship first.

But if you’ve been dating someone for a couple months and it’s just not working, read on!

Rejection is never easy – neither being rejected nor doing the rejecting. It can be simple enough if you’re rejecting an advance/a date – “I have a boyfriend” is always an option – but it’s different if you’ve been on a few dates. In a culture where ghosting is growing more and more common, I have found that honestly is usually received as refreshing. If you’ve just been on one or two dates, a simple text will do. If it’s more than that, it at least warrants a phone call. And if you’re actually dating or in a relationship with the person, you should really meet them in person.

But whether you’ve been on a couple dates or in a relationship with someone, and whether or not you meet them in person to do the deed, a lot of the same rules apply:

  1. Don’t put the blame on yourself. The whole “it’s not you, it’s me” thing can be tiring for both parties. If it’s a lie, it’s even worse – when they see you out next week with another guy, they’re going to see right through the “I just need to be alone right now” BS. Unless that’s actually how you feel – and sometimes even then – don’t say that. It also can lead the person to believe that you will be available later once you work on yourself. Even if you believe that too, it’s unfair to ask them to wait around.
  2. Don’t put the blame on them (unless they’re a really terrible person or they did something like cheat on you). This will lead to them becoming defensive, putting you on the defense, too. Things are likely to get heated and end messily. Or, they may accept complete blame and profusely apologize, and you may feel manipulated into taking them back. Being rejected is already hard enough, so if you still care for the other person, listing all their character defaults is not going to make it any better.
  3. Put the focus on your relationship – you don’t need to get specific, but it’s helpful for both of you to give actual reasons it didn’t work. “Our schedules are making it really hard to commit to each other”, or “our ways of showing affection are just too different” or “I realized I’m looking for someone who wants to travel with me and isn’t too tied down” are good reasons. There’s also those times it’s just not working, or you just don’t feel the spark or the romance, and you can say that, too. If you keep the focus on you and them together and not on the fault of either one of you, it makes things much more amicable.
  4. Respect them enough to give them space after. They’re probably going to be upset, and if this is someone you still really care about, you’ll want to comfort them. You might even want to hold or kiss them, but this isn’t going to be helpful. They need space to stop caring about you in the romantic way they once did, and they probably need to be around friends or have some alone time to process. You can’t be the one to help them through your breakup.
  5. Lastly, take care of yourself. Just because you’re the one doing the breaking up doesn’t mean you don’t have a little bit of a broken heart. Rely on your friends and try to have some fun – there are plenty of other fish in the sea, and this one relationship not working out is not an indicator that a later one won’t. After all, it only takes one relationship to work out!

What have your experiences in breakups been? Any tips to make it easier?

Hannah’s Guide to Cheap Makeup

So you like makeup, but you’re broke.

I can relate.

So where do I buy my makeup on a budget???

  1. E.L.F.: All their makeup used to be $1, but they’ve since changed. Still, they have a ton of options around $3!
  2. Colourpop: This is definitely nicer than E.L.F. I actually like their eyeshadow’s pigment better than MAC! They also have great matte lip paints that are comparable to Kylie Cosmetic’s lip kits.
  3. MAC: It doesn’t sound cheap, but their eyeshadow pans are actually really cheap! If you already have a holder, you can order the pans online for $7 each – even cheaper during holidays/sales!
  4. Morphe: They have a ton of great huge palettes for really cheap that are comparable to expensive brands. They also have awesome brushes!
  5. B.H. Cosmetics: I really like their contouring palette, but their eyeshadow is supposed to be good, too!
  6. Makeup Revolution and Makeup Geek are supposed to be good for eyeshadow pans and palettes, though I haven’t tried them before!
  7. NYX: I love basically all of NYX’s stuff, but especially their brow and lip stuff!
  8. Drugstore brands: I am not a huge drugstore makeup person, but there are some cult favorites people swear by, like Maybelline Falsies Marscara, L’Oreal True Match foundation, Maybelline Age Rewind Eraser, and L.A. girl concealers for highlighting and contouring.

Also, look out for holiday sales at places like Ulta and Sephora! But I promise you, it’s possible to be a makeup junkie like me on a budget.

Happy shopping!

Hannah’s Guide to Getting a Pet

Getting a pet, to me, is a rite of passage into adulthood.

It’s the first time you’re taking responsibility for something other than yourself (and, if you’re like me, you’re hardly taking care of yourself). Maybe you want the company. Maybe you want the protection. Maybe you need the comfort. Maybe you’re looking for a way to meet cute guys at the dog park – no judgement!

But getting a pet is a huge commitment! So I’m here to walk you through it.

First, you’ve got to find your pet. I’m only going to go over shelter animals, because we have way too many cats and dogs on the streets so don’t you dare buy from a puppy mill!!! (Also, who can afford that??)

My favorite site to find pets is petfinder.com. You can filter for the type of pet you want and its age and even breed! But another great way to find pets is through shelters’ facebook and instagram pages! If you just google local shelters, you can find look for their social media on their website.

My experience is with cats, but I assume it’s similar with dogs – kittens/puppies can be a lot of work – especially puppies. Both will need basically constant attention and playtime, and puppies you’ll have to train. Both will probably make a mess. My advice is to get an older animal that’s at least 1 or 2 – that way you can also get a feel for their personality, while it’s often hard to tell with baby animals. Remember, getting a pet can be a 10-20 year commitment, so it’s important you get along with your pet!

If you’re resolved to get a puppy or kitten, then you have to be willing to put in the money (if not in training then in protecting your furniture). Kittens do much better with other kittens, so you might want to at least foster a second kitten.

Fostering can also be a great idea if you’re not sure a pet is right for you. That way you can get used to their personality and experience what it’s like to have a pet without committing! However, if you foster a kitten or puppy, it can again be a lot of work.

It’s also important to keep in mind that not all apartments allow pets. If you struggle with anxiety, depression, PTSD or a similar issue, you can usually get an ESA from your therapist to register your pet as an emotional support animal, and then (unless the owner of the building has serious allergies) they’ll pretty much have to allow you to have the pet even if the building doesn’t normally. (This also applies to pet deposits and rents being waived if you have an ESA).

Other things to keep in mind:

-vet bills and pet insurance (both my cats got sick and needed lots of vet care – you have to be ready for this burden)

-if you get a dog, make sure you have lots of space in your neighborhood for them to walk

-if you get a dog, make sure you have roommates or a dog walker or some way they won’t be home alone all day

-if you already have a pet, make sure you introduce the new pet before committing!!

-keep in mind if you’ll be moving or traveling – will the pet have a place to stay?

The last thing you want to have to do is re-home a pet. If you give a pet back when they’re older, it’s much less likely someone else will adopt them. Make sure you know what you’re committing to!!

That being said, pets are a great way to reduce anxiety and bring joy to your life!!

I prefer cats and dogs, but things like guinea pigs, hamsters, and reptiles can be good if you’re looking for a cleaner, shorter time commitment pet. These are okay to get at somewhere like Petsmart, but don’t fool yourself that it’ll be like having a cat or dog – unless you let it roam free (and then be prepared for the mess), it’s simply not the same. They’re also much harder to rehome if you change your mind.

You with your new pets: